They know they won’t always get it right
We live in a world fixated on perfectionism. Women put so much pressure on themselves to always get it right, but learning the art of imperfection and allowing ourselves to make mistakes, is absolutely key, if you want to live a happy life. Take a new perspective on the things that don’t turn out how you wanted and ask yourself ‘what is the lesson being given to me here?’
They forgive themselves
No matter what it is you have done, if you forever bear the burden of past mistakes, you will never be happy. Its in the past and you can’t undo it. So forgive yourself darling, no one is perfect and we all make mistakes. The key is to learn from them.
They turn jealousy into inspiration
Comparison is the Queen of happiness thieves. Kick her ass to the curb and instead, use jealousy as an indicator of what you really want. Happy women let themselves be inspired by those they find themselves in envy of. They celebrate her! Because they know, that if she can do it, they sure as heck can do it too!
They go with the flow
You can’t control everything (and why would you want to, honestly?) You and I are part of something SO much bigger than us, there are energies out there that we have no influence over and sometimes, they’re going to rock our world. So go with the flow baby, have you noticed its what the happy people do?
They look within
Anyone who relies on others to be happy, is walking the wrong path. I don’t care how cliche’ it sounds, you honestly have to look within and realise that you are responsible for your own happiness. Its not about the situation, its about how you react to the situation.
They don’t try to change or fix others
To be truly happy, you need to either change your expectations of a person who is making you unhappy, or let them go. And know this: the relationships you have with others, is a reflection of the love and respect you have for yourself.
They focus on the positives
It’s easy to focus on problems, what’s going wrong and the hurtful things other people do to you. In fact, we overwhelm ourselves with it, making it nearly impossible to see the good stuff. But right beside the crappy stuff, is something amazing that you’re missing. Find the positives in your day. Slow down and savour them! Do this every single day and soon you will see that you’re actually surrounded by so many beautiful reasons to be happy. And if you really want to amp up the positives, start a gratitude journal.
They invest their energy in the things they actually want to
Obligation can be kryptonite to your happiness if you constantly give in and do things you really don’t want to be doing. The trick? Happy people know the art of politely saying no and they understand that declining an invite is ok. If you want to be happy, you have to spend your time doing the things you want to do. And you know what, you do have time, you just need to find it.
They don’t play the blame game
What happy women realise is that culpability won’t change the situation anyway, so they don’t go there. Instead, they take responsibility for their situation and they continue working towards what they want. Like I said above, its how we react to the situation that makes the difference.
They don’t take other peoples opinions too seriously.
Happy women realise that the only person whose opinion of themselves REALLY matters, is their own. Because no matter what other people say to us (good or bad), its only the things that we believe that affect us. A handy trick is to talk to yourself like you talk to your best friend. I bet you don’t tell her that she isn’t good enough do you?…
I honestly think happiness is the most important thing in life but shouldn’t waste our time chasing it, we need to create it. – Rach x